Monday, November 14, 2011

why wont my girlfriend trust me to live with my friend (f) for the summer? is she overreacting?

why wont my girlfriend trust me to live with my friend (f) for the summer? is she overreacting?
im a 21 year old guy and ive been dating my girlfriend seriously for like 4 months, but we've been together for almost a year. anyways, i go to school but live by myself in a medium sized apartment. i like kinda need some money for this summer and next year so i want to sublet a room in my apartment to my friend who happens to be a girl. i totally dont think of Alexis that way and it would be just for 4 months while school was out. my girlfriend is going to be going back to home to Argentina for the summer and shes told me shes not okay with me living with another girl while shes gone. but the thing is id get 2000 and s no one else is really going to be around in the summer, itd be nice to have some company. id never touch her though obviously. i like offered to use $500 of it to take my gf on a trip but that just made her angrier??? how can i make her see its just for the money and that NOTHING is going to happen. i really love my girlfriend and she says she loves me too. why would she trust me?? my gf is like really gorgeous and smart, but i think shes a bit jealous because alexis is also pretty. i dont want estella to freak out though. is it just not worth it? i dont NEED the money, but it would be nice to have extra cash
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1 :
i kinda do see whwere your gf is coming from , it would be horrible to be far away from your bf and knowing another girl is therer with him , even if its nothing but friends! i guess shes worried soething will happen between you and the other girl! x
2 :
she knows you better than you think
3 :
Have you ever done anything that would make her think that you would cheat on her with this girl Alexis? Or have you been involved with her at any point in time? I think just the idea of you living with a girl that is not her, would be make any girl worry, not too mention she is going back home - so she will not be there. Your best bet is to try to reassure her - at this point you need the money, but she needs to know that this is all it is about. Offering to take her on a trip is nice - but you said you need the money, so putting it towards a trip would seem like you didn't to her. Try talking about it again, but when she gets upset, don't start defending yourself but really TRY to understand her reasoning. Good Luck!
4 :
tell her that its jus for the money and nothing goin to happen if u can video chat with her while shes gone
5 :
Bro, shes gona get confortable living with you. Next thing you know shes gona walk around the apartment in a bra and panties bouncing them titties. Thing after another and its gona get dirty. Lisen to your girl friend, a woman is always right.
6 :
Well there has to be a certain amount of trust in a relationship, but there has to be a fair amount of consideration as well. Put yourself in her shoes. If you were going away for the summer, and she was going to sublet a room in her apartment to another guy - a guy who in which may choose to walk around in his boxers - share a shower, walk around in a towel, and may get to know your girlfriend on a personal friend level, see her every day, share meals... basically get the chance to live with her EVERY DAY when you are so many miles away..... how would you feel? She may not distrust you - she may distrust the girl and what she may try to pull. After all, who wants to get THAT phone call - you know... "Hey honey, I miss you - I love you too... we need to talk..." I don't feel she is over reacting at all. She is being honest with you and letting you know that she is uncomfortable with the situation. Even if nothing is going on, she will be sitting at home - worrying, fretting, and driving herself crazy just knowing that all it would take is one weak moment, one slip, one dream, one anything to make things totally change and destroy everything the two of you have. In my opinion, if you really cared and respected her, you wouldn't put yourself in a position like this. You are saying, "look at all the neat things we can do, a vacation and be comfortable, if I let this chick live with me!" And what she is saying is that she'd rather not take a vacation, and live on a strapped diet so long as you don't live with that chick. She loves you, she doesn't want to feel like she is sharing you. Show her you love her too, if you do.



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