Sunday, June 26, 2011

Does my boyfriend hate me ?

Does my boyfriend hate me ?
Ive been dating my boyfriend for 5 years now we have been Living together for 4 years , when we started out I was only 15 now im pregnant 20 and he is 25. I moved to Argentina for him and we've always been very happy , of course not an unhealthy happy , I love him and I always will , we had our arguments but nothing really ugly , lately about the last year he is a changed person , I don't know if its me ive already asked him , he doesn't even talk to me , ive dumped him twice because maybe he didn't want to be with me anymore but we would always get back together , but he has always been the same way ,he would call himself a loser he gets upset when i go out , he says that he cant support me which isn't his fault because he is studying he does make less money than me but I don't think that he cares that much .Could it be that he is older or that I make more than him? Does he need a change like with a job or does he need a psychologists help ? Please help Ive tried talking about this with him but he wont respond , I want my Man back.
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1 :
You were way too young.
2 :
if he is an a hole
3 :
He sounds a little depressed. You two should try couples counseling or at least try to convince him to see a psychologist on his own. Good luck!
4 :
It kind of sounds like he's depressed and if that's the case it really has nothing to do with anything you've done or haven't done. And he doesn't hate you. But if you're pregnant do you really want to bring a baby into such an unhappy home? Tell him to go get some help; even just from his doctor. If he doesn't want to then maybe you need to move on. At least for now.
5 :
maybe he just has low self esteem and he can not talk about it with you because that makes him seem like less of a man.
6 :
well, you got to try to talk to him. no one else can answer it for you not me no one but him. you should try again, maybe something sad is going on with him talk to him
7 :
He may not know the answer himself. You have to realize that everyone goes through periods where they are in lovey dovey mode and then there are periods where you just don't like that person...(not that you don't love them)...it's normal - don't freak out about it. Things will work out. Don't bring up money with him or anything that perhaps you might think he feels insecure about, just be there, let him know in no certain way that your open to talk - just try not to push too much (even with the best of intentions, men sometimes just shut down). In short, NO HE DOESNT HATE YOU.....
8 :
Maybe your boyfriend is getting upset because he feels like you arent going to stay with him if he can not support you. Maybe you two should go to conseling. That may hellp him cope with this
9 :
u guys r 2 young...
10 :
no
11 :
When people go out at a young age they aren't really mature And maybe he changed his mind about u find someone better
12 :
HE'S BIRD DOGGIN CHICKS AND BANGIN BEAVER HONEY MOVE ON!!!!!!!!!!!!!
13 :
yes you are a goof ball for having a kid with this one and unmarried , what else is left to say?
14 :
I would say if he doesn't want to be with you than he wouldn't be.. I'd have to agree with some of these other people that he sounds depressed. If he's not talking to you maybe a psychologist would help him. Do you think it's because you're pregnant that he's acting different? Did you plan to have this baby? Either way I think counseling should help.
15 :
Your boyfriend may possibly be goin thru somewhat of a depression. His 20 year old girlfriend makes more money than him...he's 25 with a baby on the way that he may know he cant afford and all of that may be troubling him as it wud many a men. ..You may just have to let him be with his thoughts..If you keep pressuring him to talk about 'the problem' he'll be less inclined to tlk to u about it...so all u can really do for him is let him ko u are there for him.. ..The way he's been acting towrds of u as of late may actually have nuthn to do with u..He may jus be re-evaluating his life and his goals. He may have seen himself being farther along in life by 25 and is somewhat dissapointed in himself.Something he'd more than likely rather not share with sumone who depends on him.. Hope that helped. God Bless
16 :
He doesn't hate you but he might be having trouble at school. it is not right to expect someone to stay the same forever too and you were way too young to settle down at the age of FIFTEEN. But talk to him frankly.
17 :
Hug: "squeeze (someone) tightly in your arms, usually with fondness; a tight or amorous embrace." He needs one right now. Just go up to him while he's studying, and give him a big and long hug. Life gets hard and depressing. But that's why we fall in love; to deviate from such pains.
18 :
The pregnancy might have a large part to do with it. He might not have wanted a child or he wasnt ready for that step. At this point (after moving all the way to Argentine) you NEED to be thinking about a marriage, especially now that there will be a child. If the two of you feel like you cant commit to a lifelong relationship, you need to go ahead and move on with your own lives separately. This is one of the main reasons that sex before marriage is a bad idea. You both need to sit down and have a very honest, open talk about everything.
19 :
first of all, i'm so sorry. to carry this man's kid and know that you two might not stay together must be really hard to deal with. but i agree with everyone else, you just need to have some counseling, or even just talk to him yourself. if it's going to be a lasting relationship then you need to talk. without talking, where will that get you?
20 :
i dont think its about the age at all... maybe he's feeling the strain of not having as much money and having a baby on the way is a big responsibilty... babies cost a fortune!! lol Have you spoke to him about this? maybe he has been studying too hard and you can try taking him out for a nice meal as a surprise cheer him up abit, it will take his mind off things and maybe dress up in sexy underwear for when you get home sort of spice up your love life. Do him a massage and/or put some chilled out music on for you both with some nice candles and just spend some time together. I dont think he hates you at all, i just think he's abit stressed at the moment but dont push him into talking to you... just say if you would like a chat im here for you then leave him to come to you he will open up eventally congratulations on the baby and good luck for the future i hope this helps x


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